So I am almost four months pregnant, and I have yet to get the “glow” so many people talk about. The following, however, is what I have gotten/learned:
1) I have learned that either the people all over the internet lie about everything, or I am just a weird case.
2) I have learned that once you have a child, you are apparently given a button that makes you an expert.
3) I have learned that no babies sleep in cribs, and yet I see thousands of pictures of babies sleeping in them.
4) I have learned that I don’t need to buy anything at all for the baby, because all they will do is hang out in a bouncy thing.
5) Morning sickness is not actually morning sickness. It is all day sickness, that in my case, gets worse at night.
Don’t get me wrong, I have loved being pregnant. We fought so hard to have this baby, and this baby fought so hard to make sure we knew it was there. But being pregnant is not easy. Aside from the physical demands, it has opened the door for so many opinions that, to be honest, are often times unsolicited…and yet people feel it is necessary for me to hear.
Newsflash….Jesse and I want to make the same mistakes that everyone else makes. Its what makes having a baby real. Every child is different, just like every parent is different….and while I appreciate people’s attempts to help us save money, what seems practical for you, may not be for us. As I am writing this, it makes me sad that some people may read into this and think it is me being ungrateful, or even worse, directing it at them specifically, but in reality its not directed at anyone. Jesse and I want to do this. And if you know either of us very well, you know that we are going to do what we want anyways 🙂
I still have so many friends that are still on their fertility journey. Every day I think about them, and remind myself that the annoyances that I feel today pail in comparison to what they are dealing with. I have gotten GREAT news from one of my first infertility friends, H. She had a successful IUI after several tries. And then one of my newer friends got pregnant without science, after two failed IVFs. Life is funny, and never a guarantee.
Off to go make some terrible decisions…I think this time on clothes.